The IDEAL MUSLIMAH
The True Islamic Personality of the Muslim Woman
as Defined in the Qur'an and Sunnah
By Dr. Muhammad 'Ali Al-Hashimi
Translated by Nasiruddin Al-Khattab and Revised by Ibrahim
M. Kunna and Abu Aya Sulaiman Abdus-Sabur
Copyright and published by the International Islâmic Publishing House (IIPH), Riyadh, Saudi Arabia in 1999. The good Muslim mother-in-law respects her daughter-in- law and treats her well; she makes her feel that she is loved and appreciated; she listens to her thoughts and opinions, approving and encouraging those that are good, and gently correcting those that are mistaken. In all of this, the mother-in-law's aim is to be fair and just, so she judges her daughter-in- law exactly as she would judge her daughter if she were in her place giving her opinion to her mother, in accordance with the words of the Qur'an: "O you who believe! Fear Allah, and [always] say a word directed to the Right.) (Qur'an 33:70) She does not omit to express the joy that she feels from time to time, when she sees that her son is happy with his wife, and this adds to the best feelings that her son and daughter-in- law feel. Similarly, she does not forget to include her daughter-in- law on various occasions, just as she thinks of her daughters, so she lets her accompany them, and makes her feel that she is one of them, and that she is a beloved member of the family since she is married to her beloved son. In this way the mother-in-law becomes dear to her daughter-in- law, because she shows that her daughter-in- law is dear to her. This is in direct contrast to the practice in those backward, jahili societies that have deviated from the guidance of Allah (S.W.T.), where hatred and despicable plots between mothers-in-law and daughters-in- law are the norm, to such an extent that this enmity has become a traditional, inevitable phenomenon, about which there are many folk sayings and popular songs. None of this could have happened if both mothers-in-law and daughters-in- law had really respected one another's rights as outlined by Islam, and had stayed within the limits prescribed by Allah (S.W.T.). This is why the traditional enmity between the mother-in-law and her daughter-in- law disappeared in those societies that truly embraced Islam and adhered to its teachings and values. |
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